Anger is, for many people, the emotion they can access the easiest and the one that very temporarily leaves you feeling empowered. But, anger often comes to the surface to protect us from a deeper emotion such as vulnerability, grief, hurt, or helplessness.
The problem with anger is that it blows the other person away and, in many cases, it feels like a physical blow even when it’s just a verbal response. And therein lies the problem: it achieves the opposite of what you wish would happen. Instead of communicating your pain or hurt it pushes the other person away.
When the person you are interacting with, is trying to protect themselves from your wrath, it is close to impossible for them to recognize and have empathy for the real feelings lurking below the surface. In fact, anger can be so destructive that it destroys relationships, both personal and professional.
We work with you to be able to express your feelings, including your anger or disappointment is an assertive rather than an aggressive or passive aggressive manner. We do that by helping you to develop more positive (rather than negative) communication skills.
We call it emotional strength training. It helps you to get your needs met and to develop the courage to express those more vulnerable emotions.